Whinge Learn Change


WLC = Whinge, Learn, Change

This morning, I gave the sofa some feedback.  I told it, in no uncertain terms, what an idiot it was for bumping into me.  It was personal.  The sofa was out to get me…

…except it wasn’t.  I was the idiot.

Do you ever find yourself giving a good talking to inanimate objects?  As humans, we tend to anthropomorphise ‘stuff’ and then assign malicious intent to it!  Why do we do that?  (Or am I the only one?)

My justification?  I was tired.  But I’m more tired of this stupid sub-routine in my mind.  Time to change.

Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of working alongside four consultancies who shared the same learning model.  The WLC model:

Win, Learn, Change

The Win, Learn, Change model is used for gathering feedback and commitment to action at the close of an intervention.  What was the win for you, what did you learn, what would you like to change?  I’d like to share the Lex Revised Version:

 Whinge, Learn, Change.

I don’t know about you, but I meet a lot of people who Whinge!!  Well, they say, “It takes one to know one!”

I can’t remember a single time when I found a whinge helpful, can you?  But a whinge can become our friend, when it becomes a catalyst for change.  This morning, when I caught myself whinging about the evil sofa trying to kill me, I remember my positive intention to write this blog.  So here’s how Whinge, Learn, Change could work for you…

Whenever you catch yourself whinging or even just having a murmur of discontent (let alone a Winter of it!) let it be a wake-up call for an opportunity to learn and change.  The Whinge is the trigger to choose a better response.  Heed its call.  Then ask yourself:

 “What can I Learn from this?”

Of course, I learned that the sofa wasn’t evil, that I was being stupid, I wasn’t getting enough sleep, and I needed a cup-of-tea to help the morning wake-up ritual.  What’s next?

 “So what do I need to Change?”

Take responsibility for my own movement around the house and be more careful.  Develop enhanced acuity.  Laugh at myself when I’m feeling ratty.  Get some sleep!  Have a cup-of-tea first (isn’t that what Stephen Covey means by “First Things First”?)

I hope I’ve brought a smile to your lips as you read this.  We all whinge (trust me, you do too).  Now you have a simple strategy for turning your whinge into an asset for change.  And, if you’ve got deep enough rapport with your friends, you’ve got a great tool for transforming their thinking if they ever think your ear looks like a garbage container worthy as a receptacle for their interminable whinging!

Are you the font (of all knowledge) at the front?

Food for thought… good food!


IMG_0022A discussion about learning styles has sparked off another train of thought about learning and the role of the facilitator. There are some questions around technical and knowledge heavy training/learning that have sprung to  mind.

  • Can you facilitate when you have to give a lot of information?
  • Does it all rely on you, knowing your stuff?
  • Is lecture/presentation the only option?

So here are some of my thoughts…..

  • Facilitate means to “make easier” so even as a lecturer, you can always make the learning easier for your learners. Use memory techniques to aid retention. Watch this short video for some ideas:
  • You need to know your stuff but you also need to know, more than that……how to inspire learners to learn more. Leave some questions unanswered and challenge them to find the answers. Get them to guess…pose thought-provoking questions. If you just talk, their minds can wander anywhere…but if you…

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Living Goals [POWERFUL Goal-Setting pt.8]

So Let It Be Written; So Let It Be Done!

So Let It Be Written; So Let It Be Done!

Living Goals [POWERFUL Goal-Setting pt.8]

Well, as I come to the end of my 8-part series on how to create goals you’re likely to achieve, I arrive at my rest with my favourite criterion. This is that our goals need to be “Living”.

At first, this may sound strange but its meaning is simply that goals must come “alive” to us on a daily basis. We are strange creatures. Our awareness of time is strongly focused on today, with a span reaching with some clarity to yesterday and tomorrow but not much further! It is as if a python had swallowed an elephant – there’s a big bulge in the middle of our timeline! The returns diminish as we get further and further away from the central focus that is “today”!

It is almost as if our system really does reboot after every period of significant sleep, bringing a new locus of focus.

When I first began to realise the power of goal-setting, I went to town. I had a gorgeous binder full of fantastic images of what I’d like to have, be or do. The problem was that when I shut the cover on the folder, I shut the contents off from my mind. I closed the book.

Far better to re-energise your goals on a daily basis. And to do this, you just need a humble notebook. There is something visceral about jotting down a reminder of your key and core goals – great and small. We know that the memory traces are already in position, we just need to remind our consciousness that these are the destinations we wish to head towards, right here, right now. This strengthens the neural pathway to that dream, and makes it ever more a path of least resistance.

Then, instead of being “out-of-sight, out-of-mind” – the dreams will stay “insight, in-mind” – and you’ll find that this is one way that dreams become reality.

So let it be written (daily), so let it be done (daily). [With a pencil…??? They are so tactile!]

A Summary of Our Journey Towards Realising Our Dreams

Whilst mnemonics may not be everyone’s cup-of-tea, they do help me with this particular checklist-for-transformation. So here is a summary of our POWERFUL journey together over 8 posts.

P was for ‘Positive’ – framing our desires in terms of what we want rather than what we don’t want.

O was for ‘Own-Control’ – choosing goals that we had the power to influence.

W was for the ‘Win-Win’ – making sure there was a big enough ‘win’ to motivate us to persevere.

E was for the ‘Evidence’ – the sensory signs that would let us know we were on or off track.

R was for ‘Resource’ but also for ‘Resourcefulness’ – that ‘Resilience’ that works with the ‘win’ to keep us going.

F was for ‘Faith’ – requiring an occasional jump when a humble step would seem far safer.

U was for ‘Unique’ – keeping our goals simple and single – the KISS principle.

L was for ‘Living’ – breathing life into our goals every day by taking the simple action of (re)writing them down on a humble note-pad.

May all your good dreams come true x