I mentioned in my last blog the work of TV Evangelist, Kenneth Copeland. I’ve always found him to be inspiring and thought provoking. Many of his insights are drawn from the King James Version of the Bible. Its antiquated language is often quite stimulating – allowing for lateral insight (or “Revelation Knowledge” as Kenneth would call it.)
Borrowing then from Kenneth, he likes to use this verse: “Therefore take no thought, saying…” (Matthew 6.1) – and his insight is that we often ‘take’ a thought by ‘saying’ it to ourselves. This makes a lot of sense – for how often does a story get more real (or exaggerated) when we say it out loud to others?
Here’s my point. I live and work and socialise with a lot of very beautiful, very British people. It is the British way to be very polite, and to always ask how someone is, even if we are not listening to the answer, or don’t really care! The number one answer I get to the question, “How are you?” is “Oh, not too bad…” The number two answer is, “Oh fine, thank you…”
If Kenneth is correct, listen to this drivel! “Not too bad…” does this mean things are quite bad? Just a bit bad? Of course, what they mean is that matters are really quite agreeable! Things are going really rather well!
Now, I think that saying, “things are going really rather well” instead of “not too bad” is much more powerful at a psychological, linguistic, social, and spiritual level… it might even be more powerful on a physical level.
If you’re a fan of Malcolm Gladwell (and I am), you have most likely come across his reported research of the impact of ‘good’ words or ‘bad’ words on people’s behavior – especially when it comes to tolerance. He reports behavioural change with New York University students when forced to wait. Those exposed peripherally to positive language prior to the event were far more disposed to display patient and tolerant behavior!
So what we listen to, what we imagine, and above all, what we say out loud really seems to impact our psyche and physiology.
Actually, I don’t really care whether this is true or not – the bottom line is that proactively choosing a positive frame for your language is a better, more highly-evolved/developed/civilised way to live!!!
Watch what you say… the thought might be catching!