Archaic Consulting – and the cure

In the News…

The news media have been quick to expose corruption deep within some of the most esteemed names in auditing, accounting, consultancy, and banking.  These ‘noble’ companies have been caught stealing from stakeholders and from governments.  They lie, they steal, they cheat.  Other more attractive ‘love-brands’ have been found to be doing everything they can on the edge of the law to avoid committing taxes to the countries that they have grown fat feeding upon.  This is all unsustainable.

As a consulting company, I call this kind of Jurassic Mindset “Archaic Consulting”.  It is based upon a belief system that suggests being a parasite (ie. taking from your customers, stakeholders, and community) is an ‘aggressive’ business model that somehow should be applauded and admired by hard-nosed ‘realistic’ business people.  The sooner these business models, and the predatory dinosaurs that perpetuate them, are driven to extinction the better.

A 21st Century Cure

My solution is to take the glue of our language, the vowels, and assign significance to each one.  In English, we use ‘A’, ‘E’, ‘I’, ‘O’, and ‘U’ to glue consonants together to create sustainable words with meaning.  We also have a special role for ‘Y’ – which I will come to last of all.

The cure to Archaic Consultancy begins with ‘A’ – ‘A’ for ‘Authentic’.  ‘Authentic’ is used specifically in Transactional Analysis to describe beliefs and behaviours that are ‘true’ to the individual.  There is no compromise – no violation of personal integrity – no searing of the conscience.  Archaic Consultancy is not authentic.  Salespeople and Consultants in Archaic Companies are encouraged to bend, stretch, and adjust the ‘truth’ to fit the fiscal lust of the organisation.  This means lying to the customer to ensure the order is said ‘yes’ to – even though the salesperson knows they cannot deliver on their promise or timeline.  This kind of behaviour is rife, and, frankly, any organisation that requires its people to even exaggerate the truth is worthy of extinction.  Authentic behaviour, on the other hand, will lead us closer to the better business practice of “under-promise, over-deliver” – a practice that we know can produce ‘Customer Delight’ and sustainable, repeat-business.

The ‘E’ of our cure is for ‘Entrainment’ – the art of synchronising with another.  We all need to work harder on our listening skills.  Sometimes it’s easier to notice someone not listening to someone else rather than to ‘hear’ this fault in our own communications.  The species of consultancy that will replace Archaic Consultancy is a symbiotic species.  This new 21st Century form of Consultancy will always pursue Covey’s “win-win or no-deal” philosophy.  It will see service like an insight: when I share an insight with you, you will have the insight, and I will retain it – win-win – we both prosper.  Let’s call the neo-form of sustainable consultancy, “21cc” for short.  21cc will realise that any deal that leaves one party considerably better off is a poorly formed outcome.  In an age of “TripAdvisor”, “Amazon Reviews”, and other review engines, revenge is easily taken by customers who feel taken advantage of.  This will begin to happen to companies too.

Entrainment is building a rhythmic relationship with our customers and suppliers.  It is breathing together, moving together, pacing one-another.  It is a dance of rapport.  ‘Symbiosis’ is one of my favourite words – and it describes the results of entrainment.  In this dance, the customer will often lead – and the 21cc will follow.  It is my belief that synchronising with colleagues, customers, and communities in this way will lead to more experiences of synchronicity.

‘I’ will stand for ‘Inspiring’ – 21cc will be a force for inspiration in the lives of all they touch: their staff, their suppliers, their customers.  As such, they will recognise that ideas that are actioned are the major fuel for an ongoing flow of inspiration.  The quickest way to kill creative motivation is to block the flow of ideas.  Inspiration is both energy source (fuel) and currency (reward).

‘O’ is the most significant paradigm shift that must happen if we are to evolve.  ‘O’ stands for ‘Ownership’.  I regularly have clients asking for ‘evidence’ and ‘proof’ that my approaches work.  The only ‘proof’ I can reliably point to is… me.  Take my touch-typing programme as an example.  The programme a) teaches touch-typing in about 3 hours, b) teaches the concepts in an entertaining and high-calorific way (using chocolate), and c) provides the all-important access to entertaining ways to consolidate skills after the programme.  Does it work?  Only if the participants take ownership and continue to practice after the introductory event.  The gap between great expectations, good intentions, and sustainable good-new-habits is only bridged by consistent action.  I’m not a dictator. My participants are not slaves, victims, or puppets.  Training, teaching and education is a democracy – the power is within the grasp of the learner.  21cc must get this message across to clients – if it doesn’t work, the teacher is not to blame!  If it does work, the student is to be praised!

This is why coaching can be such a brilliant way to help bridge the gap.  Coaching is a form of ‘shared-ownership’ en route to the full exchange of contracts – the full exchange of ownership!

‘U’ is ‘Unique’ – 21cc must have sufficient genetic diversity from other organisms in the business ecosystem for clients and potential clients to be attracted and to commit.  Grey-scale may be arty and often more economic than full spectrum colour, but I know what my retina wants to drink in.  Too many consultancies boil down their personality to a common ‘brand’ identity.   This is under the mistaken guise of providing brand-consistency.  This, however, is to fly in the face of what is required for new paradigms.  New results in new markets require new patterns – patterns that may be perceived as ‘unreasonable’ at first, but rapidly become the new benchmark for excellence.

And finally, I promised you the ‘Y’.  The ‘Y’ is, of course, representative of ‘You’…and me.  Bespoke business solutions is the only way forward.  The off-the-shelf profiteering of the 80s is gone, gone, gone.  You, the client, You the colleague, You the community must have initiatives tailored that “suit you sir!”  And then, beyond that, You must realise that You make the difference.  21cc is a collaborative partnership, not a dictatorship.  It’s not Parent-Child, it’s not Superior-Subordinate, it’s not Rich-Poor – but it is Y-Y… and that’s a whole new gender in the genetics of Consultancy!

Help Is At Hand… But Not Where You Might Think

Life often reminds me of the guy who was drowning.

He shouted, “Lord Save Me!”

Up sailed a life-boat…

“Come aboard mate!”  They said, reaching out their hands.

The drowning man replied, “No thanks, the Lord will save me!”

Reluctantly, the life-boat returned to port…

“Lord Save Me!” shouted the drowning man again, thinking that perseverance and faith would help win God’s favour.

Overhead hummed a helicopter as it descended lower – and winched down its rescue officer.

“Take my hand mate!” Said the cheery chappy.

The drowning man replied, “No thanks, the Lord will save me!”

Reluctantly, the rescue chopper returned to the airfield…

“Lord Save Me!” shouted the drowning man in desperation.

Up popped a periscope… followed splendidly by the rest of the Russian Submarine to which it was attached!

The hatch flew open and a team of sailors emerged.

One said, in broken English, “Comrade, won’t you let us help you?”

The drowning man replied, “No thanks, the Lord will save me!”

Majestically, the Russian Submarine sank beneath the waves – the sailors shaking their heads in disbelief as they re-entered the sub and closed the hatch with a resounding clang behind them.

This resounding clang was like the death knell for the drowning man.

He drowned.

Later, in Heaven, he thanked God for letting him into such a wonderful place.

God said he was welcome, and that most people had some questions after arrival.

The man breathed a great sigh of relief and blurted out, “Why did you let me drown?  I believed you were going to save me!”

God smiled, shook His magnificent head incredulously and said, not unkindly, “I sent you a life-boat, a helicopter, and even a Russian Submarine… and you wanted more???!!!”

The New Pareto Principle

At 52, you’d have thought I’d have learned a thing or two by now… but sometimes I can be so slow!  During the process of my first guitar lesson for years, Johnny Moore and I got chatting about the importance of “Whom You Know” over the baseline of “What You Know”.

“What You Know” is vital – if it’s lacking, it is, in fact what Zenger and Folkman call a “fatal flaw” – the missing foundation that causes the whole mighty edifice to fall.  With this in mind, I’ve spent my life learning “stuff” and tweaking my knowledge until what I offer is the best I can make it.  I’ve gained a lot of satisfaction from this approach.  I have to acknowledge, however, that there are equally a lot of people out there who don’t seem to care, and yet are a lot more financially successful.

When Johnny and I were chatting, it finally dawned on me.  Life is about “The New Pareto Principle”.  Vilfredo Pareto, in 1906, observed that 80% of the land in Italy was owned by 20% of the populace.  He also discovered that 20% of his garden pea pods contained 80% of his pea harvest!  From this has developed the so-called “Pareto Principle” where we may find that 20% of our activities give us 80% of our yield.  For example, many companies will get 80% of their business from 20% of their client base.  This is now a Law, because it is not rigidly true, but it is a useful principle.

The United Nations Development Programme Report (1992) showed that 20% of the World’s richest people controlled 82.7% of the World’s Wealth!  (See: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle)

Nowadays, I am meeting an ever increasing number of age 50+ people who know a lot!  However, their former successes are eluding them now, and nobody seems to want to employ them in spite of their wealth of experience.  For them (and me), there is no fatal flaw of lack of knowledge.  The “What You Know” foundation is well laid.  The Big Issue is “Whom We Know”… or don’t.

This is why Social Media, Networking, just getting out and meeting people is increasingly important.  Most of us are very good at building a few strong, loyal relationships, but this isn’t the best strategy anymore.  If you want to succeed you need a lot of weaker relationships – quantity over quality.

This spreads your net(work) wide, and catches more proverbial fish.

Ecclesiastes 11:1-2

Ecclesiastes 11:1-2

In fact, we may dare to suggest that 80% of your future business will come from 20% of What You Know, and 80% of Whom You Know.  Which means that whomever you meet today is more important than you may ever have realised…

Change Your Words, Transform Your Life

I mentioned in my last blog the work of TV Evangelist, Kenneth Copeland.  I’ve always found him to be inspiring and thought provoking.  Many of his insights are drawn from the King James Version of the Bible.  Its antiquated language is often quite stimulating – allowing for lateral insight (or “Revelation Knowledge” as Kenneth would call it.)

 

Borrowing then from Kenneth, he likes to use this verse: “Therefore take no thought, saying…” (Matthew 6.1) – and his insight is that we often ‘take’ a thought by ‘saying’ it to ourselves.  This makes a lot of sense – for how often does a story get more real (or exaggerated) when we say it out loud to others?

 

Here’s my point.  I live and work and socialise with a lot of very beautiful, very British people.  It is the British way to be very polite, and to always ask how someone is, even if we are not listening to the answer, or don’t really care!  The number one answer I get to the question, “How are you?” is “Oh, not too bad…”  The number two answer is, “Oh fine, thank you…”

 

If Kenneth is correct, listen to this drivel!  “Not too bad…” does this mean things are quite bad?  Just a bit bad?  Of course, what they mean is that matters are really quite agreeable!  Things are going really rather well!

 

Now, I think that saying, “things are going really rather well” instead of “not too bad” is much more powerful at a psychological, linguistic, social, and spiritual level… it might even be more powerful on a physical level.

 

If you’re a fan of Malcolm Gladwell (and I am), you have most likely come across his reported research of the impact of ‘good’ words or ‘bad’ words on people’s behavior – especially when it comes to tolerance.  He reports behavioural change with New York University students when forced to wait.  Those exposed peripherally  to positive language prior to the event were far more disposed to display patient and tolerant behavior!

 

So what we listen to, what we imagine, and above all, what we say out loud really seems to impact our psyche and physiology.

 

Actually, I don’t really care whether this is true or not – the bottom line is that proactively choosing a positive frame for your language is a better, more highly-evolved/developed/civilised way to live!!!

 

Watch what you say… the thought might be catching!

Mirror Neurons, Evilution, and a Matter of Choice

[Author’s note: I’ve lifted some comments from a Facebook conversation about violent media.  The other people’s input has been partially edited because of inappropriate language for some of my audience, but I can connect anyone to the conversation if they’d like to join.]

Kate says:
“Truly believe that we live in a monkey-see-monkey-do kinda world, and when all we’re subjected to on a daily basis is news flashes of murders, rapes and terrorism… it’s no wonder people let it consume their every move. Why can’t the news show what awesome things people are currently doing for those in Boston right now? Because it’s not entertaining. **** you I don’t want entertainment I want to live in a world where people respect and love each other and to know I’m safe. I don’t wanna constantly be scared. Just some late night opinions for you there…”
Finbarr replies: “Human violence long predates the media. We are animals remember. Animals don’t have media, but cats will torture anything smaller than them to death, all species will steal food off others, will fight for territory, will dispossess other creatures from lairs if they can or have to. If you throw food to ducks or other birds, they will go crazy trying to get it all, the thought of sharing never occurs. Don’t focus on the negative aspects of humanity without focusing on the positives which FAR outweigh them. We co operate and are selfless in a way that is unique in the animal kingdom… [then] Well, other people are, I’m a ****.”
And my contribution was as follows…
Fascinating thoughts folks… and here’s something to add: mirror neurons and “evilution”… 1) Mirror Neurons are subject to fascinating research – very much “Monkey see, monkey do…” When one “monkey” watches another doing a task like taking fruit out of a jar, the researchers have shown that the same neural path is triggered in the observing monkey. This is why mental rehearsal is so successful. Now, the flip-side is – imagine what damage is being done to minds of all ages when they watch violence and other acts that they are physically capable to doing. Yes, the same neuronal paths can be triggered in their own brains. Weirdly, Jesus said that thinking about committing a crime like murder or adultery would do as much damage to your “heart” as actually doing it. People thought he was mad, but maybe he knows neuroscience? lol.
2) Evilution. I agree with Finbarr – history shows violence is a long established part of our “being” – and engrained in Nature. When people say Nature is wonderful, I know they must be focusing on a very filtered version of Nature – the beauty of the spring leaves in the hedgerow for example. Looking deeper the would see the rotting rabbit in the roots of the hedge, infected with Myxomatosis – invented by man, and eaten by parasites not invented by man!!! So, regardless of your stance on “Evolution” – we definitely have a choice to rise above Evil-ution – we can choose what we watch, which thoughts we nurture, and proactively choose acts of kindness over acts of unkindness.
It starts with the small things… Here, in the Village, we have rich horsey people who ride high above other people and look down on us. One of them allowed their pony to poo on the pavement where the children cross to the library. This was back in November 12. It’s still there. Yesterday, three of them were riding three abreast on the main road. No road tax, no consideration. Why am I picking on our horsey people? Simply because evilution is not about being a Hitler. It’s about acting “as if” you weren’t connected to everyone else. You are. We share the same air, we drink the same water, we are made of the same stardust.
There’s a fascinating thing in psychology called “The Broken Windows Syndrome” – where a building with two broken windows is seen as fair game to those who want to smash more windows. There’s a switch were we suddenly go, it’s OK to be bad. What switch flips in people’s heads where they give themselves permission to fly-tip? What switch flips that then allows people to justify software piracy? What switch would ever justify cheating on your taxes or your partner? I don’t say this in a self-righteous way (I’m with Finbarr on knowing exactly what I am…) but I do know that the switch isn’t switched by itself. YOU and I need to guard our hearts and minds, knowing that there is a momentum of thought that leads to the switch flipping. Kenneth Copeland, who I used to enjoy listening to a lot, would often get more from the King James Version than perhaps the author intended! He was, and is, however, always provocatively inspiring. Something he drew attention to really stuck in my mind: “why take ye the thought saying…” Perhaps, like mirror neurons, we take the thoughts by giving them more attention – by watching bad news, playing violent programmes, watching horror, and just talking bad about other people. Today, I’m going to have a go at: speaking only good of others, drawing people’s attention to what is good, true, pleasing and noble, and proactively seeking to encourage others… and I’m a bad man!!!

(Mis) Management by Good Intention

…or the road to Hell that is paved with it!

This is likely to be one of the harshest blogs I’ll ever write, so let me first assert something.  I have done a LOT of damage over the years to my friendships and relationships – all with the best of intentions!  When this blog moves into critical style, know that I am speaking to myself first-and-foremost, with the intent that it might just be a useful mirror for others too.

Up Close and Personal

I’ve had the rare opportunity recently to work very closely with one of my favourite Suppliers (as in an organisation rather than an individual).  This is an organisation where the dominant psychological preference is that of the Creative (Squiggle-Triangle or Triangle-Squiggle in Dr Susan Dellinger’s eloquent take on Carl Jung’s Personality Types – see www.shapestest.com).  These Creatives are driven to create, driven to improvise, driven to tweak and improve everything they touch.  These are people who use “alternative currencies” way beyond the two-dimensional attraction of mere money.  These are Creatives who value ideas, recognition, and artistry as equally valid currencies that enrich their lives.

So what’s the best way to systematically extinguish the very spirit that lights their fire?  That’s an easy one – and it has three strands (like all great chords).

  1. Firstly, you must squash, ignore, or crush every great, bad, or so-so idea they have.
  2. Secondly, you must impose changes on them as a surprise – whatever you do, don’t enter into any dialogue with them first, or check with them that it’s OK… after all, what do they know, they only do the job day-in, day-out?
  3. Thirdly, make sure you catch them doing anything wrong – and let them know that you’ve caught them in any inappropriately stupid way you can think of.  Whatever you do, do NOT catch them doing anything right, and do not notice any situation in which they go the extra mile (again)…

Maintaining (Mis) Management by Good Intention

To sustain this kind of level of destructive mis-management, you must have a least two non-democratic senior leaders.  Their style must be as Autocratic as possible – with one of their favourite phrases or behaviours being, “that’s on a need-to-know basis”.  If they can also enforce changes to good practice without consultation, that will really help bugger up the morale and smooth running of the organisation (see point 2 in our unholy trinity above).  These Autoprats – sorry, “Autocrats” – will long for the Jurassic Management practices of Mushroom Management and Seagull Management.  (“Mushroom Management” is defined as, “keep ’em in the dark, and feed ’em shit” – I know a lot about feedin’ them shit!!!  “Seagull Management” – again from the Jurassic Management Manual – is defined by the practice of the Parent Bird (ie. the Autoprat) flying in, making a hell of a lot of noise, crapping over everything, and then flying out again!)

The big issue here is that Creatives do “passive aggression” – they’ve usually got enough grace to smile and get on with it, whilst at the same time looking for creative ways to throw a spanner in the works.

The sad thing here in the organisation I’m thinking of is that one of our Autoprats really is doing it from the best of intentions – for the success of their company on their terms.  However, the even sadder fact is that they’ve failed to realise that it isn’t “their” company anymore.  Creative-types give their heart and soul to any organisation they commit to – so even if it isn’t recognised “legally”, their place-of-work is really “their” organisation – they are the major stakeholders WAY more important than the external customers...  This is what gets the Creative staff members out of bed in the morning, and what keeps them motivated.  Bluntly, I’d also have to assert that in the spirit of patent and copyright law (at least in the UK), the ideas the Creatives put into the organisations are really “their” ideas until signed over – and so it really is “their” organisation.

Mis-Management by Design

Having endorsed the good intention of one type of Autoprat,  I have also to assert that there are cancerous agents in organisations – the bullies and the gold-digging parasites – that simply need to be cut-out and cut-off – and the wound quarterised for the good of the organisation.  Even the “Gentle Jesus” had no time for this kind of parasite: Matthew 12:25, “Every Kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; and every city of house [or organisation] divided against itself shall not stand.”  Wasting investment on them is like “casting pearls before swine” – and doomed to disaster.  Removing them is utterly a good business imperative.  This blog is not about them, though as soon as we can develop a genetic test to identify bullies, parasites, and gold-diggers in the “womb” of staff selection, and terminate them before “birth” into the organisation, the better.   Ooo, that probably shouldn’t be in the blog, should it?  Sorry, but if you open your eyes and ears to the media, you will see that bullies and gold-diggers destroy innocent lives.  One life is one too many.  We are historically far too tolerant of bullies, autocrats, and other parasites.  There’s almost some sort of secret gauge that says, “how many people have got to suffer before see draw a line”?  Dig out the bad apples before the whole barrel is contaminated – the sooner the better.

Hope for the Well-Intentioned

Flipping the coin, we find that the best way to manage bad-managers is to manage them!  Rather than the passive aggression that is the “cornered” response of the compromised Creative type, we creatives need to recognise that so-called “Strength Respects Strength”.  Calling a “Sod” a “Sod” will actually provoke respect!  Of  course if you try this with the pseudo-symbiont of the parasite, all hell will break loose.  Check the “inner-witness” of your heart – you know when an apple is good, and when one is rotten to the core.

As recently as only 1834… the Tolpuddle Martyrs formed a righteous alliance against the tyranny of class and autocracy… and were sentenced to the exclusion of exile and transportation for their integrity.  Understandably, less than 200 years later, individuals in organisations are reluctant to stand up to the crass stupidity of managers – for fear of exclusion and exile.  The Tolpuddle Martyrs changed the world, however, so I call upon the courageous to rise up and “…make the buggers’ eyes water” (thanks to Pink Floyd for that last lyric!)

Managing Creative Types

I said earlier that Creative Types recognise other currencies as equally valid payment for their inputs and passion: recognition of their ideas, inclusion in the decision-making process, keeping them in the light of information, respect, noticing them going the extra-mile…  I know someone at this Organisation who will clean the toilets without fuss or without explicit need for recognition… and they are a senior manager!  That, to me at least, is a sign of a leader whom I want to follow.  When the going gets tough, I’ll follow them.  Our major Autoprat works through so many layers of buck-passing that we’d be drowning in poo before they’d don the rubber gloves.  When I was a Bible College, I was also delighted to discover that the guy who tidied up the chairs after church was the retired ex-Principal.  This was the much-loved and much-missed Gilbert Kirby.  What a guy!

By way of stark contrast, don’t look at your phone messages while one of your Creatives is trying to share with you… they should be the only person in your World who matters at the moment in time.  Aside from being rude, it’s just stupid!

Creatives need attention and recognition to fuel the flame… and they don’t mind if the wind blows the flame in a new direction – just don’t blow out the flame.  From the Flame, via “L” learning, come Fame.

I would whole-heartedly recommend the Blessing-White X-Model of Engagement if you really want to harness the infinite power of your Creatives.  You’ll need to discover what your Creatives really want from the job, and in return you’ll find they will really give what it takes for you to meet your Organisational Goals – but it’s “Symbiotic” – both parties need to “win”.

The Conclusion of the Matter

Even though many managers mis-manage from the very best of intentions, only the emotionally intelligent should be allowed anywhere near managing a creative workforce.  Don’t piss on the fire of the Creatives… not if you want to stay in business anyway!

Desperately Seeking Susan

From Wikimedia: http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/5/56/Desperately_Seeking_Susan_movie_poster.jpg

Movie Poster from this wonderful film

Actually, the plot of this particular blog is: “Desperately Seeking Symbiont” – just as in the “Personal Columns” celebrated by this marvelous move… but my guess was that few people would be attracted to read it!  Actually, this film is about desperately seeking a symbiotic relationship.  Here’s the summary from Wikipedia: Roberta (Rosanna Arquette) is an unfulfilled suburban housewife living in Fort Lee, New Jersey who is fascinated with a woman she only knows about by reading messages to and from her in the personals section of a New York City tabloid. This fascination reaches a peak when one such ad with the headline “Desperately Seeking Susan” proposes a rendezvous in Battery Park with the man who regularly seeks her. Roberta goes to Battery Park too, gets a glimpse of the woman (Madonna) and in a series of events involving mistaken identity, amnesia, and other farcical elements Roberta goes from voyeur to participant in an Alice in Wonderland-style plot, ostensibly motivated by the search for a pair of stolen Egyptian earrings. [Link]

So what is a “Symbiont” and what is a “Symbiotic Relationship”?  There are patterns in Nature to mirror, and patterns to avoid.  Nature doesn’t always get it right – and Nature is not always wonderful.  For transactional relationships in Nature we find three patterns:

  • Parasites
  • Hosts
  • Symbionts

You’ll find these in families, churches, organisations, and nations too!  “Parasites” only take – to the detriment of all they touch and feed upon.  “Hosts” provide the means for Parasites to continue on their cancerous crusade.  “Symbionts” represent an alternative evolutionary path – as important as the evolutionary difference between Chimps and Mankind, between light and day.  Symbionts genuinely and authentically seek a win-win scenario in their transactions – something we may legitimately define as “intimacy“.

Roberta, in the movie, like all of us, is seeking intimacy, adventure, excitement, attention – to be connected.  This is what I seek.  So here’s my ad for this “Personal”:

Desperately Seeking Symbiont…

…for intimate, long-term relationships (platonic!)  Extroverts need not apply.  Candidates should have a genuine interest in “Game-Free” honest communication.  Sycophants need not apply.  I want friends who will tell me when my nose is dirty, or my breath smells! I want friends, equally, who will honestly tell me when I’ve done something good, cool, or amazing.

I’m looking for soul-mates who are fed-up with bull-shit.  Kindred-Spirits who are happy to be themselves and who like me “just the way” I am.  Perfectionists need not apply.

Now, even more personal, I’m looking for Symbionts who share ‘likes’ with 80% of my taste in music, films, books, hobbies… that’s got to narrow the field.  You’re also going to have to want a Chameleon!  Be into books… be into Science Fiction… be into Nature… be into Music – Big Time!!!! …International is ideal but I don’t need another Russian Bride, OK?

Ask And You Shall Receive

Actually my desired list of symbiotic overlaps is vast… but I don’t need it all in one person.  If you’re the sort of person who doesn’t want to waste anymore time (small talk is OK as long as it is “authentic”), then let’s connect… and whoever you are out there tuning into my broadcasted blog, I hope this will stir you up to seek your soul-mates, and waste less of your precious time with “emotional retards” (thanks “K” for that graphic, if politically inappropriate description!)

So, “Desperately Seeking Symbionts” – kindly contact lex_mckee@me.com